Steve, this all sounds similar to what I have experienced along the way. BTW, my W stated her EA just before her big 50. We had more sex during the A than now. First she said she didn't want to confuse me. When I explained that it didn't. Now she says it confuses her. IDK

I know you are tired of all the "I don't knows" I know I am.

Yes, you shouldn't have started the R talk. I understand the need. Fact is we rarely know more after these discussions.

More ambivalence more confusion.

Stay strong, buddy.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.