"I've asked my W- when was the last time you did something with him that was just for him? Not forcing him to do something you wanted to do. She did not have an answer."
This is not DB. Yea, we all screw up. Just know it when you see it.
Wolf, I'm not sure you are grasping what others have said.
Do the 180 or rules or LRT, but leave the boy out. His relationship with his mother does not involve you. Not now.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.