Just got off the phone with a friend of mine. I've spoken here about her before. We've known each other for over 30 years. She's hell bent on finding me a GF, but in a good, sane, tempered way. She just doesn't listen all that well and thinks I want for me what she wants for me. She even told me how she was talking to another mutual friend about how Don really wants a relationship. And I'm like whoa, whoa, whoa girl, YOU may want that for me. I'm more just looking for someone to do things with and if it grows from there, that's fine.
Anyhow, now that she's been sort of keeping her eye out for a few years now, and has introduced me to several friends, she's now seeing what I've been trying to tell her about how hard dating at this age is. She even told her husband how she is so glad she is married because she would not at all want to be out there and dating.
She first informed me of one of the cruise list girls. We both knew this lady had been struggling in her life for a while years ago. I was concerned right away (as I often am) while she was hopeful she had changed. Thing is, people rarely change. They are who they are. They will alter a bit but who this gal was when I last knew her well, 25 years ago, is who she apparently still is. Anyhow said girl's mother even commented to this friend that I should stay clear or at least be careful. "Don is way too nice and way too normal for [daughter]." And that's from HER MOTHER! I guess family has even given up on her love life. There is more to it but I won't air her dirty laundry. Sad.
Friend then moves on to tell me about her cousin who has been D'd for a few years. She ran into her and asked her if she is ready to date yet. The women says that she actually is. Friend says, well what are you looking for, I may know someone to introduce you to. What came out shocked my friend but seems to have really turned on the light bulb for her. Among her cousin's list was 1) Tall, 2) must love cats, 3) has to like Oreo cookies. At this point, she stopped her and said Oreo cookies, HUH? What about personality, believes, interests. Oh that is important too but liking country music and certain types of food (beyond Oreos) evidently was higher on her list. "She's nuts" says my friend so I won't even bother.
Not a lot of response to my last posts - which really is okay. I did want to at least comment for those who did: V - I'm not sure if that was a Bull [censored] translator or a black and white translation. The world is just not black and white. Maika, that's the thing, I'm ANYTHING but depressed. I at least think I went through depression about 10 years ago - in fact I'm pretty confident I did and this is not even close. I'm very happy with my life. I really am. If I was not, I'd change things. I get up everyday and go to bed every night really happy. I exhibit none or close to none of the depression warning signs. I'm confident I'm not depressed. Have I given up on finding a normal woman that I'm also interested in and is interested in me - yes I very well may have, but that doesn't make me depressed, that I'm sure of. I've not even totally given up, but I have certainly partially given up and am very less hopeful - in that you are correct.
Other than that, I had a great weekend with lots of fun and lots of people. Starting to get into a busier music time now with lots of things planned including a few dates. My now and then FWB appears to have broken up with her BF so, um, well do with that what you will but it's usually good news for me.
And I updated here after only 3 weeks. That's pretty good for me as well. I'm going to have a snack now. I bought some Oreos when I went shopping early today [sarcasm]
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
