Some women don't have maternal instinct and for others it's reserved for babies who give unconditional love. When children are no longer cute, becoming their own little people with their own personalities. They too can be discarded because it's hard work and the focus is no longer on mom as me.
So it may actually be a relief for some to loose custody, it frees them to be entitled for themselves. Waywardness trumps motherhood every time for some. Plus they can blame the LBS as being manipulative etc.
Truly a great dad can be the better parent, more stable and most dads have lots of paternal instinct, often preferring little peeps to babies. There are wonderful, wonderful men here on this board that can make the best of all homes for their children. My hats off to guys who fight for their kids when mothers instinct is to go wayward and discard.
Children come first. Always.
If you are expecting losing their kids to shock a wayward to rock bottom or awake maternal instinct think again. It may well do the opposite. Free them to become more wayward.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
