Vanilla. just trying to understand. Where you a WAW or did you leave an abusive relationship? Perhaps a little bit of both?
Both. I was walking on BD1 March 2014 (four months married) after finding the G with his hands down the fish wife jeans. Then was persuaded with sweet words to stay as apparently I hadn't seen what I actually saw.
Then I stayed and the abuse and raging got worse and worse. In June 2014 I walked to a small holiday flat I owned. Then things got worse and worse. The raging, abuse, legal action and the OW. I counted 9OW possibly 10. The G (giggalo spelling deliberate) would not leave the house which I had owned for 35 years. Eventually I moved back in Feb 15 and on 2 May 15, I caught him gambling with the BIT in a casino after saying he was going to a memorial for his deceased son. He got angry and walked out and I locked the door.
He M me for money to gamble and he gambled 820k sterling in 4 years, lost his job, raided my savings, stole from the business and gambled his pension scheme, redundancy, house sale. Then proceeded to sue me for maintainer and to buy him a house. The BIT (Bratislavan Italian Tramp) is an ex exotic dancer still M and living in Tuscany. I couldn't find him to D him, he was trying to reach the magic 5 year mark which makes him entitled to 50% of the assets, since almost everything that remained was mine......
You truly can't make this stuff up and you can't DB abuse and anti social behaviour.
So yes I am a WAW and I walked because of abuse. When I arrived here I was almost vilified for walking.
Does that explain?
That's nearly 40 threads in a paragraph! There are other very terrible things that are on my thread including forced oral cop (valentines day 2014) and saying my aged pa should smother aged ma (dementia) and it was easy to do he should know. That if he wished he could rub me out and trust him no one would ever find me because his brother works for a waste disposal company and they do that all the time. That I should be careful I didn't accidentally trip out of a fourth floor window.
Each sitch is different and some M are so toxic and some waywards so poisonous that strategies are need to get away and fast. Mine was one of those, I had so much help here to stay sane that I post to pay back some of that love, tough talking and experience of others.
I did DB from Mar 14 and joined the board from Oct 2014. It saved me.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
