Ill keep on trucking. you are totally right about emotions and logic not meeting equal time-frames. My logical part knows where things are at, and knows what needs to be done. My emotional side still wants answers, hope, love and attention.
Cognitive dissonance is still such a struggle. I consciously know my WW and the Woman i married are the same person. My heart wont believe it. I can literally picture them in my head a 2 completely separate people. The hair color, attire and attitude changes help make that disconnection hard to wrap my head around.
She actually became a different person. I can remember her saying "don't you think all people should grow, and change? Would you want to be the same person your whole life" When i asked her why it felt like she wasn't herself, like ive never actually known her. I get what she was trying to say, but to use it as justification for completely destroying our lives without a shred of remorse is a bit much.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds