My Scenario Pt.5 - Big D and Detaching the Monster

[OrangeK]

I agree wholeheartedly.
The ONLY way i would put the brakes on D or consider R after D at this point would be fore her to have committed to going to IC, and have ahd already gone a few times and made some progress. I would need to come and involve myself in that therapy relationship to hear what has been begun being worked on in these IC sessions. I would need to SEE not be told, serious actions of recompense, actions not words.
I would need definitive PROOF OM was gone for good, never to be in the picture again.

I realize these are unrealistic and aren't going to happen, at least not for years, and her "apologies" would be fabricated, unless she really did have a MAJOR emotional and maturity shift.