Newbie In Need Of Guidance #3

[rminer]

Over the last few weeks I have gotten several temp checks from my W. On Thursday I got a a very big one.


While I was at work she sent me a series of texts asking me basically how committed I was to her. The questions were asking if I truly love her, if I can accept she's different than when we first started dating, if I still want to grow old with her and other similar questions.

I told her that these questions were a little unexpected and asked if something was wrong. She said nothing was wrong she " just wanted to know the answer to those questions"


On Friday she sent a text message asking me if my day was going better then the previous day ( I had a rough day at work on Thursday). This is something she hasn't done since last October.


On Saturday when we got home from S8's soccer game I noticed something sticky on the seat where he was sitting and made a comment about it. He wasn't around so when I got in the house I asked him about it. While I was doing that my W started getting things to clean the seat with. I asked what she was doing and she told me she was going ro clean it for me. I told her she didn't have to, but she insisted.


When she was done she started wiping down the interior of her vehicle. I grabbed a rag to help her. It didn't take long, maybe 10 minutes. I did it just to reciprocate the favor.

Afterwards we went inside and she made lunch for everyone. She then went out, got the Shop-Vac and started vacuuming my car. I asked her why and she said "because". She has NEVER cleaned my car for me.

On Sunday I was having a bad day, very tired, not in a great mood, so I was not very talkative. Late afternoon MY W asks me whether she had done something to upset me because I was acting "weird." I assured her she hadn't - I was just very tired. Again, something like this hasn't happened since before all of this started in November.

I don't know if it's a coincidence, but since that temperature check she's been acting very differently. It may mean nothing, but it is certainly very confusing.


I do have a question though. Our 25th anniversary is tomorrow. I haven't seen too much on how to handle it, but I'm sure conventional wisdom here says not to do anything.

I feel like I should acknowledge it in some way, shape or form. Nothing major, but something just to recognize it. I say this because of the way things have been changing and because of the way she reacted over me not doing anything for Valentine's Day. That seemed to be a setback and I don't want another one at this point.


So how much would be too much?