She sounds disgusting. I am sorry you had the misfortune of marrying someone like her.

Why cant you fight for 50/50 custody? More fathers are getting this. Especially if you live next door.

Fight for what you would want. Not with the goal of reconciling with someone like her.

Her and BIL deserve each other. You on the other hand seem to deserve a loyal companion and to have equal opportubities to raise your children.

M: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
WAH in summer