We all want validation. I still do and i have been on here since 2015 posting under a different name.
I am coming to the realization that they are a different type of people.
Sandi posted once in t2034 (a pregnant poster) thread that she didnt understand the mentality of the LBS. She didnt comprehend the connection people like us have for people like them. Something like that.
They lack empathy and the same moral codes that we do. We end up projecting our beliefs onto them. But they wont validate cause very few are capable of that type of remorse.
Waiting or expecting it is gonna hold you back.
It would be like expecting remorse from jeffrey dahmer for eating children. Sure he might have expressed it if it would have prevented the death penalty. But its not there for him. Trying to understand him and project foo issues on him and get him to see your point of view on not killing people is a big waste, makes it dangerous for you amd wont change the past or give closure.
Its hard. I get obsessive too. Thats why im still on these boards. Just give it time and live day to day. Get out with friends. Connect with other people. Thats very helpful.
