Summary...from 5 months ago... My W wanted a D due to PA with OM. That fell apart and I did tons of 180s, and my W decided not to D. She declared she will stay as a partner in raising kids only.
Things seemed to be improving until the recent event of my W accidentally sending me a text meant for my BIL. W freaked out and told my BIL what happened. I thought my W had ended her EA with my BIL. I figured it was time to tell my sister about the EA. After W found out, she told me she was filing for D. My W did not file, and has been very angry since...likely she feels trapped. In recent argument, W declared she will not leave me because she does not want to split time with the kids.
...fast forward to 2 weeks ago: my W filed for divorce and set up a temporary orders hearing to kick me out of the house.
I got a lawyer, got the hearing dropped, and we have a mediation date set for May 22.
I am told W will get custody and house. She has agreed verbally to extended visitation with our 3 kids (11,9,7)...would give me 1st, 3rd, 5th weekends, Friday after school until Monday school and Wednesday overnight from and to school.
I still dont want this to happen for us or our kids. We had my youngest sons First Communion this weekend. Priest talked about love and family...my wife was crying. The akward dinner after...everyone was super nice to me as if I had a week to live. It was aweful.
Immediate problem is housing...wife would get house and custody unless I could prove she is a bad mom...not sure if that is a good move. I own the house next door as a rental...finances dictate I move in there to save tons of money, ie $100k cheaper house tgan anything on the market. That would put me next door...and ourvparents live on the same street as each other in another city...talk about awkward visits all around.
So questions I have are: what should I be doing in dealing with wife if any glimmer of hope at turning this around, and what in the world do I do about housing?
Last edited by Cadet; 05/07/1802:14 AM. Reason: Link
M 17 years 3 kids EA start 2010 ILYBNILWY 1/2014 PA 1/2016 Bomb drop 2/2016 Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016 Living as roommates, EA continues
