Thanks for the link RR very insightful stuff from Sandi2
Vanilla,
this scrambled eggs effect- doesn't your maternal instinct trump this? When your child is hurting isn't it a knee jerk reaction to say what's wrong -let me take your pain away?
In sandi's post it says the thing that jars women back to reality is a significant loss. Doesn't the potential loss of your child fall into that category? The fact he wants nothing to do with her and yet she walks around like it's ok. can someone explain his to me? From my paternal standpoint, the minute I se S hurting-I go in to protection mode and would do anything to take the pain away. Why not W? Thanks again !!
WWs are way to selfish to have this reaction even to their kids. There was a thread from a LBH here from a few years ago where his wife stood up at the end of Thanksgiving dinner, announced she wasn't happy in the marriage and was leaving it, with all of her children sitting around the table dumbfounded and stunned. When the kids tried to reason with her she shut them down saying her mind was made up. She then marched up stairs, packed her clothes, called the OM, and ham him pick her up.
You aren't dealing with the woman you married, nor the woman that bore your son. You are dealing with a different person entirely. You are dealing with someone that has already weighed everything in her mind and decided her wants and desires are paramount to EVERYTHING else, including the well-being of her children.
LoneWlf understanding that the woman you knew is gone is one of the hardest things to come to grips with.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
