Hi Cathy, After working on ourselves and finding the direction we want to go in, one the hardest things to do is sit there on the curb ... wait and watch while our S's continue to stumble around the block time after time ... around and around they go ... enough to make anyone watching dizzy.
Your H still has feelings for you. Its just that they are buried under the ton of "crap" he is focusing on now...
Quote: Then went on to say how S doesn't listen, the house is falling down, the lawnmower/snowblower's are junk. My brother wouldn't help him out, blah, blah, then started in on his family. His younger brother and how he didn't help putting up his parent's ramp last weekend, how his brother worked in his own yard, and blah, blah and how he wouldn't be happy at OW's either because he'd miss S4 too much, his inquisitiveness, the things he says, blah, blah. How his mom ended up paying for the birthday dinner for his dad. My H gave our portion, but none of his family did, and blah, blah.
That whole list and not one complaint about you, except when brought up...
Quote: He said I don't talk to him. I said yes I do, you don't talk. H then said maybe it's me then.
... and even there you were taken out of the equation of what's wrong with his life, but he is still the one that has to figure it out for himself. The hardest part for you is asking yourself, do you think he is capable? and if you are not sure, how long are you willing to wait to find out?
Not sure if this post is helping you out any, but having to live with an unhappy spouse for more years than I wish to count, these are the answers I'm trying to figure out myself.
