Let me ask you a question, do you think it will help or hinder your goal? In fact, you've stated you don't want her back, so why would you send her the letter?
Help or Hinder? - Steve, i honestly don't know. My gut tells me hinder but I've been dwelling a lot on how i feel her situation with OM is simply to save face, she madea dumb rash decision and basically now i feel like she feels stuck where she is at because the whole affair got blow into the public eye and shes just sticking to her guns to save face. On the other hand she had been "dating" him, EA for a long time before i found out too. There are so many opposing behaviors. I dont get it. Everything about our M seemed exactly what she had always wanted. Her situation with OM is exactly what she always avoided. Everything she had done is contradictory to the person i thought i knew intimately. I cant shake this feeling that there is a part of her that is so ashamed about what she did and heartbroken that its all gone, but at same time she has show behaviors that only display the opposite of that.
"In fact, you've stated you don't want her back, so why would you send her the letter?"
I do want her back, i want the woman i married back, not this monster that has taken her place. I want my family back. Not this. I never wanted to share parenting. I never wanted separate houses.
I want the woman i knew back, not whoever this is. it isnt her. this isnt the woman i know and love.
You need to go back and read sandi's post on Wayward Wives. WWs are NOT the person you thought you knew. The girl you met, wooed, and married is gone. Potentially never to return, at least not on any timetable you might have or want.
So you would not be sending this letter to the girl you married, but to the monster that has taken her place. With that knowledge do you still think it is a good idea to send it?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
