The worst ting, may be she do sex with someone and let me know. She is the person that want to pay back.
Is that the very worst thing she can do to hurt you? Tell me why this would hurt? It is your pride or ego? Surely you do not want this cruel woman, do you? You are making a free choice to leave on your own power. She can not harm you by having sex with another person. She only harms herself.
Please, please stop snooping on her conversations. It is destroying you! You believe her lies. You believe she is the monster under your bed. She is nothing but a terrible abuser. Is there a shelter or counseling center for people in abusive relationships? I beg you to see a counselor, immediately. Get their help and advice in how to move forward. They live locally, and know better what resources are available for you. You must have emotional support and they could be there to support you through this ordeal.
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WW comment to GF if i not go home (aka leave) she will push the thing to divorce very fast ....in the end i am "let her go", i am not detached, i suffer about her comments, but now i can see my situation more clear......
You suffer b/c you have been the silent listener in your W's conversations. Please stop listening. Her talk to others can not harm you. But you must stop listening. You are addicted to the snooping.
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What is your opinion about, what to tell the kids. Could we keep my staying out like work time, until the flat is ready, the to telling them we are going to leave separate
I am not sure I understand why you want to wait until the flat is ready to tell them you are separated. If your W agrees, then that is your decision. I just worry about you not spending enough time with them during the next three months. I worry about you staying with them in the home. But it is your decision to make.....not mine, okay? This is your life and your children. I only give you emotional support where I can.
((hugs)). Please take care of yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
