I called my H this morning on my way to work to see what his plans for the weekend were and oh my the flood gates opened!
He is not a happy man! Started in on what his plans were, threw in "packing my bags" with his plans, as an after thought. Said "we" don't have anything, feels like he's home just for S. I said don't say "we" because I don't agree. He then said can't you tell I'm not happy?" Then went on to say how S doesn't listen, the house is falling down, the lawnmower/snowblower's are junk. My brother wouldn't help him out, blah, blah, then started in on his family. His younger brother and how he didn't help putting up his parent's ramp last weekend, how his brother worked in his own yard, and blah, blah and how he wouldn't be happy at OW's either because he'd miss S4 too much, his inquisitiveness, the things he says, blah, blah. How his mom ended up paying for the birthday dinner for his dad. My H gave our portion, but none of his family did, and blah, blah. I just agreed that his mom shouldn't have had to pay for the dinner, that everyone should have paid their own share.
He said I don't talk to him. I said yes I do, you don't talk. H then said maybe it's me then. Oh he is not a happy man. Ended the conversation with "now that I've ruined your day like mine's ruined, have a good day. I ended by saying "I hope you day gets better"
After I hung up I started crying. Crying for my H because there's nothing I can do for him except pray. I don't think it matters what I do/don't do at this point for my H, except be his freind.
Is this where I need to be silent and let H come through ths on his own?
