I had no idea what a MLC was until now...

[JaseP]

I'm definitely watching her actions more lately, even though it's hard not to get too hopeful when she spews out all the right things. But her actions are still largely self-serving, especially when it comes to being a workaholic and not giving me or the kids much time despite saying this'll change soon. She's lettting her ego get in the way of her better judgment. She could quite easily negotiate being laid off and get a year's severance and finally get a break but she says instead of asking "those a-holes" for any favors she'd rather get a big "f you" job to show her boss (former crush/EA) she doesn't need them and to minimize any chance of her being cast as weak or not being able to hack it. To me that'd just be going from frying pan to fire...

I hope her therapist gets through to her because she doesn't listen to me.

In the last month or two she's realized her boss (the new owner) was only telling her all she wanted to hear, kissing her butt, praising her nonstop the first couple months when she fell for it. Now she's saying she thinks he's a psychopath/pathological and has a habit of doing this with others. No wonder his previous companies have been run into the ground.
I've still never met him...

I want her to be 100% honest about everything. I think she's getting there, but of course my guard is still way up.
I'm trying hard to be patient with her, but after 8-9 months of shouldering so much of the workload at home and with the kids I'm at the end of my rope.

Now it's not even so much about her emotional affair, it's about the disparity between what she says she wants (i.e. work/family/life balance, regain my love and trust, better mom and wife, etc) and what she's still doing which is burning the candle at both ends with her job and refusing to turn it off once she's home. Crying all the time about her job and the mess she's in. She knows she's completely consumed by her career and that it's killing her and us yet in my opinion she's not moving fast enough to extricate herself from the situation. I don't say this to her, at least not like this, because she's still so quick to anger due to her stress and anxiety...and I'm sick of the friction and wary of her flipping out and threatening to walk again.

It's tough! Thanks for listening, buddy. I always appreciate your feedback. Hope you're having a good weekend.