Oh I believe in bad people and also in evil. If you want a sober read look to children of the lie by Scott Peck.

The G is evil, I believe that and a very bad man. I truly believe he plotted harm and that he meant what he said 'I would be better off if you were dead' and trust me if you saw the lizard look, the cold snake stare you wouldn't question.

Some of the awful things that happen and are discussed on this board are truly chilling. It requires saying.

In this I am not talking about cheating and wayward behaviour although that is entitled bull crap. I am saying other things, sexual abuse, hitting children, adopting children and abandoning them, not using protection when sleeping around, abandoning pregnant women, falsely accusing their spouse and getting them arrested, theft of marital assets, abandoning kids and seriously gaslighting amoung others. Intending deliberate harm for personal profit. All of these things have been reported on this board.

So yes, there are weak and wayward people and there are those who abuse for pleasure. To extract resources. And it's women and men, gay and straight: ultimately it is intended to destroys lives. This isn't mental illness, fog or crisis; it's evil in action.

In many ways saying, ahhhh it's just their behaviour dodges the question and it keeps those in pain seeking the redemption of the other. If we call it what it is destructive and state that these human doings (not beings) are the children of the lie then we know that we must stop any R and manage our self love. We get away, protect ourselves and our children from it.

M, it has been my delight and pleasure to see you grow and develop, shift of the kind you have shown is one of the most remarkable post traumatic growth sitches here. I just love it, and in my eyes you are an enormous success.

In healing yourself, learning to self love then you place yourself somewhere that this will not happen again and you provide stability for your two precious children. That is brave and inspiring.

And it hasn't been easy. I know this.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW