mtb - yeah it is hard to see it in the beginning for sure. We are so desperately trying to get control back, and we view that as the other person coming back and getting things status quo.
OrangeK - yeh it takes a long time for sure, and it requires personal work. Time won't magically make that happen. But, in situations with abuse, it complicates things a lot. There's just so much to get through.
