I may not post for a while cuz W is away for over a week but one question I have is that while DBing do you keep your wedding band on or do you take it off as a sign of no pressure? Also when is it an appropriate time to remove the band - after separation or after D? Is there a definitive answer or is it only when you feel the time is right?
I am not so definite about rings.
I kept mine on until decree nisi (first stage of D in UK). Then I went out and bought myself a ring, which is very pretty. Mainly because I was being asked out on dates (where has that gone now I am free?) and partly as a symbol to myself that I am wedded to me.
I put the rings in the G packing boxes, if he has found theM they are no doubt either on the BIT finger or pawned or sold. They were beautiful and matched and I paid for them I subsequently discovered!
Then aged ma died and I wore her ring, it's now with aged pa with his own ring and is buried with him in an oak heart box togethef with some of her ashes in her jacket pocket. Tied with a lock of my hair from childhood. The silk bag also has glam sis baby tooth a hospital bracelet from my little bruv and a couple of misc other bits from children, grandchildren and his Life. I love my aged pa, it has my tears on it too.
My engagement and wedding band from H1 (deceased) was still in my jewellery box. I had the pink diamonds reset with the gold froM both bands and I wear that but not on my ring finger.
I have a GF who wears her bands on a chain around her neck.
It's a personal choice, but I also think once the S moves into D it's the point to consider it.
Others here have ring on off, on off. I think it's easier to decide a point, make a ritual and flow into it with an open heart. Accepting that a new R (even with W) requires a new start and new rings. By giving the G back the rings I let go of a big desire to resolve or even get closure. It marked closure to me.
That's just me.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
