Sometimes we all do some things that we think just messed up everything, but did you ever stop and think that maybe the Lord allowed you to do what you did in order to get two people thinking?
Okay, the OW knows that he has a wife, but has she ever really thought of you as being a real person? Probably not. Well, she found out by your call that you are a real person and you are living at home with him. You also called him out on being an adulterer. So you nailed to birds with one stone.
She knows that you do exist and he knows that you are fully aware of her and can very well contact her if you feel like it. Sure, he is like a high school kid and likes the fact that two women are fighting over him, so don't think that what you did didn't feed his ego a little bit.
As for the questions, no you don't trust him and I would have asked him would he have trusted you if you would have had another man in your life that he was fully aware of. I highly doubt it. When you did what you did, you made him take responsibility for his actions and who likes to take responsibility for something that they are doing wrong that they know they are doing wrong.
I know that I don't and I certainly don't like others to find out about it either. So why not turn it around and put it back in your court. Then he has you off the beaten path again. He has you thinking about what you did and what you are showing him and making him feel. Therefore, the focus is off of what he has done and is still doing. Get the picture.
Fact of the matter is, he is an adulterer and she is an adulteress. There is no sugar coating it. That is a sin period. He is married to you and you were calling him on it and he didn't like it. Oh well. What would he have done had it been the other way around.
You didn't threaten her, you didn't go after her and you didn't disown him. Now, I don't think that you should continue to call over there, but sometimes things happen for a reason and we don't understand that reason until later. So, just wait to see how the Lord is going to use what you did instead of worrying about what you did.
The Lord can fix any mess that we make and sometimes what we think we messed up is actually what the Lord wanted us to do. You know, giving them that push that they needed that they didn't realize that they needed.
