It does make sense. The last thing I want to come across as is pathetic and needy. And yes I would like to explain that the changes were most probably depression. The tricky part is that she caused the second wave. Communicating that without sounding condemning is a challenge.
My journey started several years ago at the discovery. I was suddenly pathetic and needy and you, for the most part, described Ws reaction. My IC said I need to become vulnerable and that appeared pathetic and needy. Luckily it was a 180 from the man she had known for so many years. I have recovered.
I do understand that a happy well adjusted and confident H is a lot more attractive and I believe GAL etc. has helped me regain that.
I would like to explain what I believe happened. Her current state is a mystery. She seems happy. Likes to do things together. Enjoys more activities with girlfriends.
We are like friendly neighbor roommates that co-parent and have sex on occasion. San open affection.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
