Blu wave,

When someone cheats in a relationship they do so much damage on so many levels. The person cheated on is left to deal with feelings of anger, guilt, betrayal, doubt. Oh god. The list goes on and on. To me, it is the worst thing one can do to their partner. Cheating really hits ones self esteem in so many ways.

I understand you might not be proud of your reactions to the number 1 ultimate betrayal. None of us are.

I wish i had the chance to dish back some selfishness and dishonesty as opposed to the begging, and rationalizing and appeasing I did. Now thats cringe worthy.

Not being completely committed to soneone that broke their committment to you is something you should not waste your time feeling guilty about. the two of them are not in the same category.

Just move forward in a way that will make you feel good about yourself.


M: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
WAH in summer