A couple of things... Just because W and MC think you don't necessarily have to do the workbook does not mean you should keep your opinions to yourself... If you feel like you guys ought to do more of it, tell them that. Say you're not comfortable putting it aside so early in the reconciliation... What you want has to matter... I do not think it's okay that you two have already fallen away from doing some of the work...
I also don't believe your W has worked through all of her issues in such a short time, nor do I think she was working on them the seven months before you confronted her... No way...
