I know what you mean about the R talk... and yes, it would be a bit close to an R talk. Only you know if an R talk works. I know for my H they still don't work.

I do have to agree with you that letting them come through the MLC on their own seems the only way to go... my H, too, views things as controlling.

I am trying very hard to be detached... and as you know, it is so very hard.

If your H doesn't get that you care from that phone call, nothing will show him!! Funny that you wonder if you should rescue him... he should be rescuing you!


Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.