I knew that my priority was my kids, but I also acutely realized that I had to make myself the priority too. One of my failings in the MR and with life in general and other relationships was that I always minimized my needs. After BD I realized that my needs are super important and I had to figure out a way to be a healthy individual with a satisfying life for me to be a good parent. Hence came the 'Law of Shared Needs'.
So I feel much more grounded and because I am feeding my own spirit and pursuing joy in life, I am a way better parent for my kids. I wouldn't have gotten here without DBing and this community.
M.... well said! Since BD I have realized I did much of the same as you, it was always more important that everyone around me had their needs met while I never focused on myself(trait of the Nice Guy) This is a constant work in progress as I struggle at times to put myself first before my kids. With the warmer weather upon us I have a bunch of things planned for myself to do, this is something I would have never done. More GAL!
