And still struggling

[Rose888]

I've had similar issues with one of my teens. I know how infuriating those situations can be.

However, I think if I were your wife, it would feel like you had shifted all the responsibility onto me, with no discussion. What if your wife gave your daughter a similar ultimatum? Do you feel comfortable having your daughter kicked out of both parental homes? And if not, it doesn't seem fair for you to kick her out of your home.

Personally, I don't feel comfortable kicking a child of that age out for anything less than behavior that endangers other family members.

The natural consequence of not doing work is failing a grade. The natural consequence of lying is not being trusted.