So I got thinking, should I be engaging with my WW when she returns from these outings,asking if she had a good time, etc? I haven't been as I saw it as a form of pursing (I don't mention anything, I act if nothing took place that I care about) but wondered if I am handling it the best way for me as well as my daughters?
No, don't engage. When you daughter ask a question you don't know how to answer, just say, "I don't know how to answer that one, sweetheart". Don't make things so complicated for yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!