Time to move on. It took me awhile to get here, but all that really matters is that I made it. A lot of the reason it took as long as it did was the mixed signals from W (telling me she wanted to make things work, always telling me she loved me, etc.). And the fact that I felt like I needed proof of the A. I believe I've learned enough to know that he's more than "just a friend"...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019