WW in MLC affair and I need advice..

[joejoe1]

Natash,

Your W timeframe yesterday seems very suspicious. I would not start engaging with her more. You should detach more. IMO if you start to engage her more you are telling your W you are ok with her doing the things she is doing.

I think your W probably bumped into you because she felt guilty and wanted to see if your were upset about her being out the timeframe she was yesterday. She was testing you. Pull back, show her through actions that you are not ok with what she is doing.

GAL, get some new clothes. If you have lost weight, get clothes that fit, shirts that show off your chest and arms. Get a new haircut(change your hair style up). Get some new glasses if you wear them. Get some new smell good.

Your W is so enamored with what she is doing she don't see your improvements. But the more you change it up and detach she will start to take notice. Dont mention any of your changes to her. Just make the changes and keep going forward.

When or if she notice the first thing she will accuse you of is cheating, it's because it's what she is doing. Just look at her smile and keep going about your life. Your changes don't need an explanation to your WW. Let her wonder.

While you are doing this, you have to be positive. Read about positivity and how to achieve it such negativity and trying times. Smile and laugh more. At first it will seem fake, but after a while it will become natural. Find new friends to trade numbers with them. You have to make this time about YOU***** and your kids, NOT your WW.