Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 2)

[mtb1981]

I've been thinking a lot lately on what my next step is, and I guess I've got 3 choices...

1) File for D - Just put an end to it all, and try to get custody of the kids because she's not a fit mother right now. Decide on how we will split everything and go on our own ways. I believe that this route would be final, as she tends to hold grudges, and I will always be the bad guy that divorced her and took the kids...

2) File for Legal Separation - Protect myself from any bad financial decisions she makes, and try to get custody of the kids because she's not a fit mother right now. I'm not sure about the law, but it may be possible that going this route, we would not have to determine the splitting of possessions, sell the house, etc. I have a feeling I would still be the bad guy, but this is something that would be easier for her to get over if she did change and R became a possibility in the distant future...

3) Sit back and wait it out - We are already physically separated, and she has everything out of the house that she wants. She has made no effort to spend time with the kids, and I don't know how much that will change, so I basically have custody anyway. It was her idea to split, so she can do all the legwork to make a divorce happen. Which in that case, I am back to #1. With this option, I believe there may be a better chance of R if she does end up making the changes she needs to make in her life, because the D would not be on me...

One thing I know for sure is that I'm going to continue on making the best life for me and my kids. W is no longer a priority...