1st, I am taken aback by the recent reactions of some here getting advice, and their vitriol towards those that provide advice they disagree with. Remember, everyone here is trying to help. No one is trying to make you feel bad, make you feel inferior, make you do the wrong things. When people are frank with you, even if it stings, you should remember what I just said, and be thankful for the forthrightness. Remember, if someone points out something they are perceiving, you should be introspective about that, and not assume the worst in the other poster. Being non-receptive to 2x4s is probably a big reason you are in the marital situation that brought you to the board. So think about why what someone typed is hurting you, and realize that it probably has more to do with you than the other poster.
2nd, when you've been posting regularly here, and you go dark from the board for several days or even weeks, where is the common courtesy to just check in and give a brief update, even it is just to say not much has changed? Some of these folks give a lot of time and effort and thought into their advice, the least you could do is check back in after a couple or a few days to let them know how things are going.
Anyway, just a couple of thoughts I've had recently. I see this forum as a community, a community I care deeply about. Marriage is sacred and worth trying to save! There are many caring people here that are passionate about that endeavor so try to remember that.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
