Thank you for checking in. Trying to detach more and more. A bit tough when I am calling the kids each night on FT. We are the stage now where we don't even say hello when she picks up the phone. I still believe she is in a MLC; shows all the signs from the signs in the MLC forum. I am trying to do 180s which is doing less around the house and more just focusing on the kids. My distance and not being around was a cause I think of how we got here, but now WAW wants less time with me around the house when I offer. xW will not negotiate a change to schedule in other state unless I significantly reduce time with eldest kids; which I cannot do in my heart. So I will have to try to get my WAW to bring kids to other state in separation to keep all the kids together and show that I doing all I can. It's tough, and I am trying to use pursuer/distancer techniques - I think pretty well. I struggle to stay patient with this, but have hope that at least I am not divorced and can stay with her siblings when I am not in the house. Again, what really can figure out is why wait until the Fall to no longer cohabitate. If she wants this now, then I said I won't fight it. Still draining, but I am trying to detach to make it less.
