A familiar story with questions. IV

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Okay, question:

Lately, as I GAL, I have been taking stock in my recent years. Things leading to where I am today. In order to improve, one has to know where they are and know how you got there, right?

Well, a quick background. My industry is closely attached to the real estate market. In my first 14 years of my career, I was a high producing achiever. I was entrenched and in addition to providing a very good standard of living for my young growing family, my sense of self was largely derived from this level of success. (as is with most males)
Here in the US when the recession hit it was as if the lights were turned out. I immediately began working even harder only there were little to no results. I am now aware of the fact that this had a profound affect on my emotional well being. In fact, I wasn't even aware until my FIL told W he felt it had hit me very hard. Until I heard this I had no idea. I still didn't accept it. I was depressed. It lasted a long time. That was years ago.

Fast forward to 2013. The market has turned the corner and is at least conducive to making a decent Living again. I had the opportunity to regain face and self-esteem.
That was when it hit. I discovered Ws EA in a traumatic and surprising way. Right or wrong it hit me hard, harder than losing my mother. I suffered panic attacks. Experienced a couple more discoveries while going to MC, IC. I felt like I was in the fight of my life. I need to save my marriage and fix my W. (yes, I now know this was the wrong attitude.) Another attack on my sense of self. All before DR and this group. This greatly affected my desire and drive to achieve.
During IC it was suggested that I may be experiencing low-level chronic depression. This was not a formal diagnosis. But it did get me to thinking. Regardless, when I had a chance to regain my mojo, I was hit with a WW and then a WAW or whatever, add to that losing my father. It was a lot of grief.

I so desire to communicate this to my W.

I'm sure the answer is never, but is there ever a right time to explain this to her?

BTW, I realize many people have stuff happen and much worse than mine. I share this not for sympathy, but insight.