Newly, I have just seen your thread for the first time an hope to offer some insight. I am by no means a vet but know how important feedback can be.
I continually hear you waffling on persuing W. Don't do it. When things a strained (I know that seems like an understatement at this point) and thing chased is going to run. Pull away and eventually you will be pursued.
Something to think about is working on yourself. Taking care of your self. Not working on your R. Not reading 5LL at this time. Becoming okay with being single. No this doesn't mean you're are accepting that it will never get any better. You are preparing yourself for whatever may happen and you are showing W that you are moving on with or without her.
Most Ws notice. Some take a long time.
Use the D handoff to demonstrate this. That you are going to be just fine.
Be prepared at some point W may temp-take. Read up on this. You don't want to fall for it. Trust me I moved past one EA without proper reconciliation only to find myself here.
I know it hurts. I know as men we want to do something to fix it.
You are doing something. You are regaining autonomy and becoming a better you.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
