More clarification on the above because i am sure i will get heat for "not holding her feet to the fire on the IC", but... I didn't insist on IC as a condition precedent or non-mnegotiable. What i did insist on was that we "continue seeing the counselor" and that we "follow the counselor's advice regarding when, how often, and who" to see her, as well as following her substantive advice. Now, at that time, counselor was insisting on IC, which i just naturally assumed would continue but... she (MC) has now backed off on that and is perfectly happy to just see us jointly and has said she only need see us individually if one of the individuals wants to be seen that way... and W is apparently not so inclined (though maybe she will be once i dump all of the above on her...)
In that vein: One other thing i wrestle with exploring, if i decide to delve further into the beach trip from last July, and that is that i know that on one other occasion she stayed at OM's hotel room. It was some weekend night after a night out drinking, and i don't know exactly when. I only know about it from one of the overheard conversations where they referenced it... she talked about being tipsy and about going back to his room to crash and then she asked him, jokingly/teasingly "Did you take advantage of me?" and i did not hear the response (could only hear her side of convo). She does not know i know this. Wondering if anything to be gained by bringing it up-- it did not appear in her global confession which covered pretty much everything else i knew and a few things i did not. Maybe its better left buried-- maybe she'd lose respect for me if she knew i could still take her back thinking she had slept with OM, IDK. OTOH, left undiscussed, it is likely to always be there, gnawing at me. I know what MC would say: No secrets, you guys both need to lay your cards on the table, but this one IDK about.
Hmmm. Seems like it should have come up before now. Hoos I'm guessing you didn't bring it up before in order to not rock the boat? A little lingering NGS maybe?
Also I get the impression that you're not entirely okay with her quitting IC. Is that correct?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
