RR17, I would ask you to please use this as a self-examination opportunity. Is there anything in your behavior in these responses that could point to similar behaviors you've exhibited in the past that have contributed to your current situation?
If you are referring to defending my feelings that I brought them here to vent instead of voicing them to my W, I would say no.
It is hard to read intention or tone when writing in a forum like this. I find it helpful to ask questions when I assume anything damning or pointed. Often I find that there is something I just didn't understand or misread.
I did feel that bringing this sitch here and vetting was a better choice than dumping on my W. I also felt that I had to defend my feelings.
I do expect this forum to be supportive, obviously not in all wrongful actions, but perhaps understanding about feelings and insecurities. I have seen indications of this in the past.
As for the W and this deadline. No, I have seen no movement. None, on the contrary, I have seen a continued respect and an increase in her desire to do things together.
More confusion and ambiguity.
BTW, the arbitrary deadline is just May of 2018, not 5/18/18.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
