Still treading water

[Gordie]

I defer to others who may know better

I never had to snoop or find out because w told me directly

Do you need to know

What would that do for you

Would that embolden you

I am a fan of asking directly

But I do not know your dynamics well enough if that would work for you

The expectations thing is hard

It is related to the saying your old m is dead even if you are not divorced

Only then can you get to zero and even then it is hard