lost and desperate think she has closed Part 2

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Not much movement either way. Wife and I only communicate by text and only about her getting her things from the house. I have been battling my NGS with reguards to calling her about refi of house, apraisal, equity buyout, tax returns and horses and trailer situation. She and her mother keep wanting me to not be around when they come to get things from the house because it makes it harder on everyone.
I have been working on GAL and 180's as much as I can and some work on NGS. Got some help over the weekend cleaning up the garage and mud room. On that front, I had a dumpster brought out and it happened to show up the same time as my W and her sister and nieces to load more of her things. I have been working on unfinished projects in the house and I bought a new bed and bedroom furniture. Went thru my closet and dresser and got rid of a bunch of clothes I no longer wear(she was always on me to do that). I know this will just be too little to late for her, but I needed to do this for me.
You see, I realized that a lot of what went wrong with us is we didn't take care of the We it was her and I. I can see that we let work stress and other things get in the way and I went into victim mode and changed the way I was. these past several years I was not who I was when we got together and were happy as a couple.
I'm not sure where things are going from here. I just know that I don't want to get stuck hoping for something that may never happen. That being that we could get back together. She is still with the OM. I know that I can't worry about them and what they are doing all I can do is take care of me and be a better person than I was. It is still difficult to go home to an empty house and cook dinner for myself. Then there is the lack of conversation I experience daily. My work is pretty much spent in solitude and then home to the same.
Hope to have something to report after tonight I have to make that phone call about the D and financial matters.