My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance

[joejoe1]

You can continue talking to her family, but stop telling your W what she has done. Let them fine out from her or another source. You telling them looks vindictive.

You keep asking her donshe believe in D, and she keeps telling no. But her actions are telling yes. So your question to her about believing in D is for you and not her. You are trying to hold her to her words, she is just saving face because she uttered those words. There's a saying on this forum that goes "believe not of what they and hald of what they do.". Your W obviously believe in D if she is trying to get one from you, please stop asking that question. It makes you look weak and unattractive.

A lot of advice on this forum is going to go against what feels right. When I say dont stand her way, I mean do help her out in the process of D. Do your homework about what the laws entitled you too. But don't ask her not to stop the D and don't ask her about D at all. Try and keep the word oit of your vocab except for on here or with a trusted friend.

Also just because she is saying she wants a D, doesn't mean she will follow thru,(believing in half of what they do). But if you keep asking her questions and standing in her way she will move in that direction faster. Do things that Will pull her back towards you.

Do what works, what's attractive and confident. This statement is hard to grasp, when dealing with your W, ask yourself those three things above, will my statement or action work to pull her closer or dither away? Will I look attractive or unattractive? Will I look confident, or weak?

Read Sandi 37 rules as often as possible.

Patience is the key. You have to be patience yourself and this process. The more you post and read, the more info and advice you will recieve and the better you will learn about doing 180s, GAL and detaching and you will learn the application better as well.