Does anybody know what the success rate is for recon after DBing? Or even a educated guess? Just wondering from the vets who have been around what is the success rate after DB and also success rate after recon.
As far as I know there are no stats anywhere on any recon.
I tracked 100 random board posters. Many just disappeared. And stats here are likely to be skewed as possibly the cases here are the tail of a bell shaped curve.
Chances of recon with a wayward are 3 R at 5 years only 1 R remained, 1 unknown and the last the wayward cheated again. This is all subjective.
With a walkaway it was 8R all where the walkaway was female, one is a same sex partnership. I only know of 2 R where the WH even pieced and only one seems stable Cat04.
There are threads that track success stories Mozza created those.
Waywards often marry OP, the stats at 5 years are better on those, there were 9 and 7 surviving at 5 years. It's too early to tell but beyond 5 years these R start to fail.
There is a study on 5,000 females comparing the LBS (divorce sitches) and the OW. After 5 years the LBS is in the much better position, financially and in terms of mental health. It would appear that second M stats are skewed by OP marriages.
No studies on men but I think if men DB for themselves, concentrating on their development then they too end up with healthy lives. Anecdotal only.
That is the best I can do on it. You can try yourself by selecting threads as if they were cases.
The important thing is learning, growing and developing irrespective of new R. I didn't save my abusive R, I should not have DB my abusive sitch, but DB saved my life. With fabulous support from my tribe I got through.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
