I hear what your saying ginger. My son wants that as well. Everytime he asks me for us to all go some place together, I tell him "no. I dont do things with daddy or your grandma anymore"
I dont think one way is right or wrong. I just know I dont want to put on pretenses. I can't act and pretend like what they did is ok. I won't give them that because ex and his whole family are all about images and secrets and lies but covered up with utensils in the proper spaces, home made birthday cakes for coworkers, immaculate home and luxury car.
I think its because ex's mother pretended like his dad was "out providing" when he really left for years and when he did come back wasnt truly present. I saw how ex turned out with all those lies and cover ups and I wanted my son to see that his dad's actions have consequences.
My son was older then your daughter when ex left and he knew that he left us though. So very different.
