Okay, so, a question for y'all. W's 50th birthday is coming up. she is, like most W who hit that age, at least somewhat self-conscious about it. She looks GREAT, but that's not helping all that much. For her 50th, I am taking her to Cancun... a place we went loooong ago when we were first engaged, and to which she has always wanted to return. She loves the beach in general and loved that place in particular. Now, if we can just avoid being shot by drug lords,...
So, my question is, and particularly to the W on here: Should I be planning something else? And, yes, we are now just weeks away so my planning opportunities are limited, but, just asking. What I mean is, will she be hurt that I didn't also plan something local with her friends? (leave aside that her friends encompass several different groups that don't really cross-pollinate, and that her "Best" friend is her toxic bff who would not really be welcome at a gathering by anyone except my W and maybe one other.) Should I at least be whispering in peoples' ears about this in case someone else wants to front something? She is not exactly excited about "being 50", but, she is not going out of her way to hide it, either.
She is very excited about the mexico trip... can't stop talking about it, how much fun it will be to be there just the two of us, at the resort, no kids, etc etc... so I know that that is going to go over very well... but... I just don't want to pull a "stupid husband" here and miss the opportunity to do something else I should have done. To me this seems like enough, but... I'm not a woman and dont' always do so hot trying to think like one.
Thanks, y'all!
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3