Out of curiosity, how was I not being congruent ? I did say, "right now I am not interested in spending time together when you are involved with another man"

I thought that was pretty clear. Also seemed like she wanted to drag me into a R talk, which I was trying to avoid.

Me, H-39, W-33
T11, M3
No children
Bomb 10/17 - "Not sure what she wants"
Bomb 2 12/17 - forced convo it did not go well.
W moved out 3/18
OM Confirmed 4/1
D Final 9/27/18