Things moving fast. Twists & turns.(hoosjim's 15th

[hoosjim]

Oh, and her bff rears her not-so-nice had again. She is allowed to contact her now (we agreed on NC at all for a month, but no visiting, going out, or other socializing). Apparently, bff is having a "really rough time" (awwww, poor baby, whod've thunk that affairs and breaking up families and marriages might, ya know, be difficult and hurtful and painful). W told me yesterday "I just wish I could see her and give her a hug." (I just really, really don't get the relationship, there... W really idolizes this woman, and screw ups no matter how bad don't seem to affect her mindset. W literally gets NOTHIONG from that relationship... bff is the prototypical ME ME ME person-- all take and no give.)

Then, first thing bff does is start obliquely trashing me (W shares her texts with me): "No, I am not okay with hoosjim right now... that whole group of people who used to call themselves my friends, now judging me and AP as being terrible, evil people..." blah blah blah. And also throwing in little digs like "So I guess you wont be coming down... things are going to be just like they were before..." (She has always given my W grief for "asking permission" from me before doing things-- she doesn't think spouses should have to do that-- and made fun of her for not being her own person. She obviously had gotten through to W previously, when she had led her on their WW odyssey last year, but W seems to be pulling away from that now.)