No, you have to stop seeing R talks as a fixer. This is not the purpose of this talk. I don't think it will stop the dance at all..........at least she's not going to stop testing you. However, you will have said some things that needed to be said as your point of reference in the near future.
Example:
WW: "Are you going to eat? I'm hungry. Be nice and fix my plate and bring to me. I'm in the middle of my show".
You: "As I told you previously, I don't mind cooking when you are working 12 hr shifts, but I am not fixing your plate and playing like your waiter".
You laid the ground work, and now you are following through with it. See?
Yes, I see. I know she will not stop testing me, and I am totally fine with that. Bring on the tests. By 'dance' I was referring to the passive-agressive show we have been putting on regarding her expectations of me doing personal favors and my refusal to do so. It's a dance because we have done no ground work, there is no reference point to go on, so it just keeps rearing it's head over and over. I'm not sure if that makes sense. Basically, the need for the ground work to back me up is definitely there so I can keep fighting back with strength and authority.
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
You: "I'm sure I don't know what you want to eat, either". Then put, "LOL".
I think this is almost word for word what I replied with!
M: 26 W: 26 M: 1.5 T: 3 No kids BD: 31 March 2018
W's affair began: 23 March 2018 Affair confirmed: 18 April 2018 Confrontation/claims she ended A: 14 May 2018 Ended in-house separation: July 2018
