The last bit has been ok. I guess I grew a set so to speak. I took leave for Monday and Tuesday, as those are the two days my wife generally has off. She had said that she was coming with a couple of dudes (I don't know them) and a uhaul to the house. I said awesome, I will be there. She was supposed to be at the house at 8 am. She no showed. I know I'm not supposed to contact her, but I did, she didn't answer for a bit. Finally I got a hold of her. Told her look, she needs to get the uhaul, and get her stuff. I don't want to fight with her, I don't want to fight any dudes. I will help load the truck. The lingering is doing no one any good. she finally came. We had 45 minutes to get the truck loaded so I could get to my kids games. No one is staying at the house that I don't know while I'm not there. I told her she could stay by herself and pack if she wanted to. I think that she understood that I am not going to let her do a slow bleed on me anymore. Most, not all off her stuff is gone now. In other news. I know I am not supposed to dwell on her and things like that. So advice is needed here. We have two kids and 50/50 custody. Today, I was told that while I was gone on deployment (and this makes sense with some of the things that happened while I was gone) She was seen paling around with a dude. People suspected they were dating. Here is the problem with that. He is associated in the town with meth and cocaine. I don't want to jump to conclusions and I also don't want to be to intrusive. But with my kids. What should I do? Maybe she didn't realize his reputation, and wasn't actually around the stuff. Maybe she did, and is. My priority here is the kids. They will be with her for about 2 weeks at the end of July, in another city away from ours for about 4-5 days of that 2 weeks and then they are with me again. Thoughts?
