I didn't want to hijack bluwaves thread. And i am really not familiar with your story or what happened between your ex and yourself.
My use of the word "bad" is pretty simplified. And it makes me think of how we tell our kids, "you are not bad. Your behavior is"
Maybe a better word is sh!tty. As in "my ex is a pretty sh!tty" person. And i am not gonna sit their and come up with explanations for it like foo issues, or maybe he was dropped on his head. Because it doesn't matter.
I think a person capable of lying, betraying, cheating, stealing to/from their own family has to be sh!tty. These actions are pretty black and white no? It's not like there is a gray moral ethical issue they are forced to make a decision about like "hey I'm gonna steal some bread so my kid can eat" .
It's not like they are inflicting trauma on enemies or opponents. They are pulling this sh!t on their family!!!!! That's the ultimate crime.
They made hard core decisions to expose their partners to stds, spend family money on drugs, maybe some lesser core decisions of inflicting some of the worst emotional trauma onto the person that devoted their life to them, humiliate their own flesh....etc, etc.
They are sh!t at the core. I really feel like that.
