Dawn, my ex didn't hit me or abuse me either. He just did whatever the h@ll he wanted. I do consider the gaslighting and money hording/lies a form of abuse though. I do wider cheating a form of abuse as well.
25, i dont have twins. I lied on the logistics about age/kid # to hide my identity better in case someone scanned the endless amounts of posts.
But i think that's a very fitting analogy. And think of the publicity that cowardly cop would have faced. People would have been outraged. Courts would have looked unkindly upon him. And to me, the committment between marital partners should have been greater then the committment between work partners.
