Seems impossible to go NC. Makes it twice as difficult to GAL, at least from a personal perspective.
You can't go NC with kids, there's got to be some level of communication taking place. Michele says in DB that when kids are involved, there's no such thing as divorce. IE, you and that person are always going to be in each other's lives to some extent because of the kids, there's just no avoiding it. That said, you can "go dim" rather than dark and keep communication short and businesslike.
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Last month or so I've been NC and GAL and I've noticed she actually tried to talk to me a couple of times when I was calling the kids. Strange, because of her tone seemed like she wanted to reconcile, but in retrospect - she realized she doesn't want to be a single mother with 3 kids.
I think you're reading too much into it, there's no way you can tell by her tone that she wants to recon. If she wants to recon she will at some point declare that to you, you won't need to read tea leaves to figure it out. Probably what you're experiencing is the normal distance/pursuit dynamic. You pulled back and as a result she no longer feels pressure, so she's reaching out more. She might even temp check you, asking if you're dating or something like that. Again it doesn't mean she wants recon, it just means your DB'ing is working.
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At this point, I have to fully accept it's over. There's no way back.
The old M is over and there is no way back to that. But it didn't work anyway, why would you WANT to go back to that? That doesn't mean you and your W are over though. You might build a new life together some day. Plenty of couples have done just that. Or you may build a new life with someone new like I have. Life is a book with many chapters, when one ends it doesn't mean the book is over, it just means when you turn the page it's the start of a whole new chapter full of excitement and rich with possibilities.
